Just as ministry can take its toll on adults, it can also take its toll on children. When mom (or dad) is blessed by others, the kids are blessed as well. When dad (or mom) is criticized by others, the kids get hurt too. I often wonder if people give enough thought to how their words and actions affect the pastor’s kids. Kids can suffer from ministry burnout and fatigue just as readily as their parents.
To that end, I’d like to suggest inviting your pastor’s children to go on an outing with your family. Some pastoral families live on shoestring budgets and don’t have discretionary cash to do extra fun stuff like amusement parks, ballgames, or concerts. Some pastors make a good income and have the extra cash, but they don’t always have the extra time. Just because dad is contractually obligated to be at church 48 Sundays a year doesn’t mean their kids are as well (translation: yes, they CAN go away with your family for a weekend at the beach!).
Of course an outing with your family doesn’t need to be an expensive one. If your kids enjoy it, the pastor’s kids will like it too. A day at the park, a movie, bowling, hiking, bike riding…….you get the idea. I think it’s important for the kids to be included and made to feel special because of who THEY are, not for what their mom or dad does.
Do I need to mention that all of this is predicated on the fact that you or your children already have a relationship with the pastor’s kids? Good, I didn’t think so.
So what are you waiting for? Let’s show those PK’s some love and include them in some of our family fun times.