Today I am up to my eyeballs in small boys. Two of my four grandsons are visiting for several days and between cooking up a huge patch of pancakes, riding bikes up and down the driveway (I’m still faster than a 6 year old), building and rebuilding Spiderman and Thomas the Train puzzles, and baking peanut butter chocolate chip cookies there isn’t much time to sit down and write a blog. I’m going to take the easy road and share an excerpt from an e-book that I wrote with my husband titled 30 Days to a Closer and More Satisfying Marriage. Enjoy. Leslie
Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13
Forgiveness is a choice. Unforgiveness is a choice. Which is the healthier choice for your marriage? Having unforgiveness toward others causes our hearts to be closed to them. It makes us feel that we don’t need, or want them in our lives, unless they do something to deserve our forgiveness. We know that God has chosen to forgive us even when we haven’t deserved it. How can we do any less for our spouse? By choosing to forgive we are choosing to move ahead – no longer stuck in a place of pain and anger. We refuse to hold on to unforgiveness as a weapon to be wielded in the heat of battle. First Corinthians 13:5 tells us that love does not keep a record of wrongs suffered. Love your spouse by choosing today to forgive. Once out from under the burden of unforgiveness, you will be amazed at the sense of freedom you feel and the depth of love you can experience.
Do you have any unforgiveness in your heart toward your spouse? If so, think of one
specific incident or action you willingly choose to forgive today. This could be a difficult decision on your part, but the rewards are worth it. Now, mentally take that offense, lock it in a strong box, and throw that box out into the deepest part of the ocean and watch it sink out of sight. Make a commitment before God never to dredge that box out of the ocean again. Once
you’ve accomplished this, go to your spouse and tell them of your decision. Tell them of your forgiveness and ask for any forgiveness needed in return.
Father – thank you for forgiving my sins. Today I choose to forgive my spouse. I ask you to take away any residual hurt and pain and replace it with love for my spouse. I know that I will be tempted at times to take back my forgiveness so I am asking you now to give me the strength to do the right thing. Work in my heart so that I can continue to forgive my spouse, just as you continue to forgive me of my sins. I also ask that you would help my spouse to forgive me for any hurt and pain that I have caused him/her.