My name is Leslie. My husband, Ken, and I are Standing Stone mentors. We host ministry couples for an entire week, in various locations around the US, and we love it!
I have been “married to the ministry” for 33 years of our 34 years of marriage. I married my College/Career Pastor at the tender age of 20. I had no idea what I was in for – if I had I might have run the other way! We have served in pretty much every capacity in the church – youth pastor through lead pastor. Tiny start ups to mega churches. There are so many positives and so many perks to ministry, but there are many negatives and many downsides to ministry, as well. We have experienced them all.
We joined Standing Stone because we have a passion to help strengthen marriages in the church, starting at the top. If a pastor’s marriage fails, then the church can fail. At the very least the cause of Christ is tarnished in the community and the collateral damage is staggering in the fallout, especially if the cause was a moral failure. Consider these statistics compiled by Shiloh Ministries (shilohplace.org):
50% of pastor’s marriages end in divorce
40% of pastors admitted to having an extramarital affair since entering the ministry
85% of spouses feel discouraged in their roles
80% of pastor’s wives feel unappreciated by the congregation
80% of pastor’s wives feel pressured to be someone they are not or do things they are not called to do in the church
Over 50% of pastor’s wives feel that their husband’s decision to enter ministry was the most destructive thing to ever happen to their families
For these reasons, and so many more, Ken and I have dedicated our remaining years of ministry to fight for ministry couples! We believe that we can make a difference! Fortunately we aren’t the only people who feel this way. We feel blessed to be included with so many wonderful mentor couples at Standing Stone Ministry.
I particularly have a heart for pastor’s wives. I plan on posting a lot of blogs on that subject. People just don’t realize how tough a job it is. I do. Been there, done that, got the hat, t-shirt, and a few scars, but mostly lots of wonderful memories of amazing people while serving an awesome God!
I’m looking forward to what God is doing in my life and in the lives of those we serve. Let the blogging begin!